Back when we had less kids we had people over to play settlers a lot more. By the end of the night most of them thought we would be soon announcing our divorce. We never really could understand it. It was a game. Yeah, during the game things could get a little tense when he would move his lead ship and take my port spot. Or when I would call a monopoly and take the 12 oar that he had just amassed from the latest 6 that was rolled.
But about an hour after the game would be over things would all be good.
Competitive married to more competitive.
And there are times (like this last weekend) when I call my sister and say to her: "no, I am not joking, he is planing the entire deck so that it won't be as much as 1/16 of an inch off".
And I become convinced that if our marriage can last through the deck building summer of '09, that we can get through anything.
Perfectionist married to Industrious.
We have discovered through the years that if something needs to get done, we need to find our own roles. He can't get the top off the vanity? Step aside, matey. I can. I can rip apart the deck, the plumbing, and pull every last speck of linoleum off the bathroom floor. But you want me to build something? Forget it. Too time consuming. I do the destruction (quickly), he does the construction (slowly). I guess that is better than him doing the destruction slowly and me doing the construction quickly.
Careful builder married to Manical with tools.
We have an evening off. He comes up with fun plans and relaxing activities. I plan how many projects we can accomplish.
Lover of relaxing married to Lover of productivity
It is time to go out to eat. Where to go? I pick based on the awesomeness of my coupon. He picks based on atmosphere, quality of food and what he is in the mood for. And he asks for recommendations from the waiter.
Rich dreamer married to practical cheapskate.
I can't control him.
He can't control me.
And that is ok.
All we are responsible for is our responses to each other.
And I am working on that.
Noah married to Julie