I was reading a question and answer column the other day. A dad of 2 little girls wrote in asking where he should take his little girls to the bathroom if they were out without their mom.
The men's restroom, or the women's?
(obviously a family restroom if available is the first choice)
Basically, is it worse to take preschool girls into the men's bathroom,
or for a dad to enter the women's bathroom.
My initial thought was, "that is weird, he can't go in there!" But the more I think about it, the more I am not sure.
Men's restrooms tend to be dirty and less face it, there is less privacy. Do you really want your 4 year old daughter to have to walk by the goings on at the urinals?
The women's bathrooms all have nice stalls with doors, so provided you aren't peering between cracks all you will see is women washing their hands.
the guy in the column said that when he takes the girls into the women's restroom, the women are all very supportive of him- they don't think the poor girls should be subjected to the horrors of a man's public bathroom either. It is men that give him crap.
As a mother of boys, I am quite used to taking them with me into the women's restroom. Deacon is 6, however and is getting a little old. There is NO WAY I am sending him into the men's bathroom alone though, and if the little ones need to go I am also unwilling to leave him alone waiting outside a public restroom.
So I use family ones, or try to have someone with me to wait outside with him. Or wait until a bathroom is empty (which is hard in really busy places).
At the Y we only use the family rooms because there is women changing in the women's locker room and it is different from a bathroom with a bunch of stalls.
What do you think? What should the opposite sex parent do in these situations? What do you do? What will you do when your kids are older?